"...Falling in love with our instrument or with our work is much more like falling in love with a person, in that we experience the rapture and delight of the discovery, but then we are saddled with the effort of fulfillment, with love's labors and the hard lessons in which illusions are stripped away, in which we confront diffucult pieces of self-knowledge, in which we have to stretch our physical, emotional, intellectual stamina to the limits, in which our patience and our ability to persevere and transcend ourselves are tested."Nachmanovitch also says that this is exactly why it's easier to love someone else's artwork: at the end of the day you can walk away from it and go home. You are not committed to it, driven by it.
I mentioned the other day that having preferences makes interacting with a medium more like a partnership, where it helps you and responds to you, and less like using a tool that would do the same for anyone. A violin is not a terribly customizable thing, but the choices a musician makes while playing it create a set of limits: key, time, etc. These constraints are the artist's partner in creation. Watch when children play a superhero game: you can fly and I have super strength! Their narrative grows within these constraints.
I'm thinking now of the English language and my partnership with it here on this blog. The range of meanings available within my diction constrain my narrative. For my first couple years doing this, I called it a "creative outlet", not trying to make too much of it to anyone. Now I'm not afraid to call this art. My facility with written English allows me to achieve a certain amount of flow. I'll go one step further: I've been using Microsoft Excel so much, for so long, that I can pretty much do whatever I want in it without thinking about the method - only the desired end result.
That probably sounds ridiculous. But think about your tools. What are you so good at that you work towards a result, not against a technique?