tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post5379969770399662187..comments2023-09-20T11:05:55.935-04:00Comments on My Future Past: The Pros and Cons of MetrosexualityUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-60728881683950099782010-11-23T21:52:24.014-05:002010-11-23T21:52:24.014-05:00There is a terrific sociological book out there ca...There is a terrific sociological book out there called "the Way We Never Were" which explains our concepts of the Nuclear Family, of masculinity and femininity are not really based on reality.<br /><br />On my father's side of the family, nearly every single woman was a deep-voiced, barrel-chested behemoth who ruled the roost with an iron fist, while the men were puny little wimps. The men worked because women weren't allowed to, but every week the men handed the money directly over to their wives. They were Ma & Pa Kettle. They were hardened farm women who had no need of cosmetics or frills.<br /><br />On my mother's side of the family the women were a bit more demure and actually liked wearing makeup and getting their hair done. However, they still did the family finances and made all the major decisions. My grandfather was sensitive and I even caught him crying over an episode of Little House on the Prairie.<br /><br />The bravado and machismo attributed to manly men, the men who kicked sand in wimps' faces, or the men who started bar fights over their team losing, is a thing of stereotypes. It's the blue shirt of a working, lower class male, the immigrant Irish or Italian worker. For some reason this fighting example has become something many men feel they've "lost".<br /><br />A metrosexual gets his name from the first part of the word. Metro, meaning city. He is upperclass, or at least above the lowly working class stiff who drinks beer and then beats his wife, or at least wears a wife-beater while drinking beer.<br /><br />The metrosexual isn't afraid to prune that unibrow or to iron a shirt. There's no loss of masculinity here. The goal of a masculine man should be to conquer his prey, the feminine woman on the flirt. If smelling less like sweat and beer is attractive to the opposite sex, why wouldn't a man adopt a cleaner, more attractive persona. <br /><br />Sure, Sex-and-the-city type women may say they want a man who can cry with them, hug them and feed them chocolate ice cream when they're on their periods, but remember that show was written and created by a gay man. Real women might like a gay man to do all those things with as a close friend, but when it comes to sex they typically look for a heterosexual man. And that label doesn't include foul body odor, drunkenness, broken teeth, black eyes, or beastly insensitivity!Bud Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07557655843349619175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-17056309826868073982009-06-28T11:09:40.193-04:002009-06-28T11:09:40.193-04:00Thanks for stopping by, Andrew, and thanks for the...Thanks for stopping by, Andrew, and thanks for the great compliment. The search engine does work in mysterious ways, doesn't it?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17526470032837468393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-76395604514793504822009-06-25T13:09:59.466-04:002009-06-25T13:09:59.466-04:00I've said it before and I'll say it again:...I've said it before and I'll say it again: The only reason metrosexuals exist is because women reward the behavior by sleeping with them. This was a great post. I just found your blog when I was google searching "tim ferriss attention economy". Weird what shows up in a search query these days. I checked out a couple of your other posts and I have to say I like this one the best. Keep yourself off twitter.AndrewAtorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10951420891028145269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-30284380391710739162008-09-11T12:17:00.000-04:002008-09-11T12:17:00.000-04:00Thanks Kevin, it seems like we came to the same co...Thanks Kevin, it seems like we came to the same conclusion from two different directions. <BR/><BR/>Over the last couple months I've been seeing this nascent masculinity movement define itself--or maybe I'm just getting around to reading the definitions--from <A HREF="http://www.agoodhusband.net/2008/09/neanderthal-macho-men-and-why-we-should.html" REL="nofollow">rejectign brute macho poses</A> to embracing understanding women, all while maintaining a sense of personal responsibility. It's given me a lot to think about.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17526470032837468393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-60335376087254107092008-09-11T00:49:00.000-04:002008-09-11T00:49:00.000-04:00The entire post is great, but the essence of my th...The entire post is great, but the essence of my thoughts are captured here in the final paragraph. We all have things to learn from the movement, but if it is used as a cop-out, then it stinks.<BR/><BR/>I love the thoughts, appreciate the comments, and like Alice's story as well. Keep up the good writing!!!<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://returntomanliness.com" REL="nofollow">Kevin at Return To Manliness</A>Kevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540053882017574769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-53902843604390799002008-09-10T22:20:00.000-04:002008-09-10T22:20:00.000-04:00Alice's comment has been added as a post, so we de...Alice's comment has been added as a post, so we deleted it from the comment thread.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17526470032837468393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-453315942766344869.post-26243923906961465522008-09-08T19:49:00.000-04:002008-09-08T19:49:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01905870176056350589noreply@blogger.com